“IT TOOK ME 28 DAYS TO START HEALING 70 YEARS OF PERSONAL FEARS”
A case study on how the 28-Day Meditation Challenge helped Marcel to break free from his reactive nature and chronic anxiety.
“I am less reactive when something happens now, a little smoother in my own head, and able to accept what is happening- it’s a really nice change.”
“We don’t want to run with or indulge in the unpleasant, we want to recognize and understand it in a grounded space.”
~ If we can’t ground ourselves in our physical body, it’s hard to contain emotional experience. If we can’t contain our emotional experience how can we connect into something that is bigger than us?If we can’t feel safe within ourselves, how can we feel safe in and external space? ~
Marcel’s Case Study
As a veteran elementary school teacher, Marcel knew a thing or two about the necessary task of guiding young ones in the skills of “controlling your emotions.” Even with all his knowledge about the interconnection of mind and body to becoming calm, he has had a difficult time practicing not letting his emotions take over.
His successful case demonstrates the impact that the 28-Day Meditation Challenge can have. The usual triggers or stressors (which Marcel refers to as his ‘Dragons’), no longer elicit the same intensity of emotion. The return to a grounded and calm state is easier if triggered, and as Marcel puts it, the meditation practice and plant medicine “relaxes me and it relaxes me for a long time.”
Marcel recently celebrated his 70th birthday and during his entire life has always felt he stressed too much about the worries and concerns of being a father. His worries have physically and emotionally affected him for years.
Although being concerned for your children is natural, when those worries become a trigger and start chronically and negatively affecting your life, it becomes a wound that deserves to be healed.
Our goal with the 28-Day Meditation Challenge was to allow Marcel to become more grounded and peaceful with his experience in fatherhood and to translate those emotions into a level that was more manageable. For that, I introduced him to a practice that will help him to stay more grounded during everyday stresses and anxieties.
The program, inspired by the Daoist teachings, includes a range of complementary tools such as coaching sessions, the consumption of 3 Shen tea, and application of 3 Shen essential oil in selected body points before starting each of my guided 2-Point Awareness Meditation. Both 3 Shen tea and 3 Shen oil are made with proprietary blends. They were specifically craftedto change how one’s emotional triggers automatically provoke a negative response and, instead, to create an openness to the healthy and beneficial results of the practice.
I invite you to read through Marcel’s story below. This is the first of a series of case studies that I have compiled to answer the questions I generally receive from clients and other practitioners about this fantastic healing journey.
I hope this encourages you to follow Marcel’s brave footsteps towards a life free from your “personal dragons’. You can also find in this video Marcel’s testimonial of this process and its liberating results.
If at the end, you feel that the 28-Day Meditation Challenge could be your path as well, I also make myself available to you. Click here to see how to start your healing journey.
First Coaching Call: Taking a first Step
“As a father, I worry about my daughters and I physically and emotionally am triggered for up to days on end.”
“The goal is we want to separate out the thinking pattern of worrying about them, and the physical sensations in your body when experiencing these triggers.”
As a first step when I work with a new potential client, I learn about their primary concerns, troubles and challenges during a discovery call. Together we then design our goals for the process and which tools we will use to assist them in their healing journey. That means: which meditation practice and combination of my proprietary blend of tea and essential oil will better align with this client’s needs.
In Marcel’s case, my team has shipped his 3 Shen Meditation tea and 3 Shen Meditation oil. Once it arrived, we had our first Coaching call as the starting point. The goal for this session is to dive a little deeper into his triggering process and to walk him through the process and its transformative exercises.
While you have access to the complete video of First Coaching Call, my team has made a selection of the highlight points that might help you to gain a broad vision of the 28-Day Meditation Challenge and the concepts behind it:
First Coaching Call
1. Meditation as a Concept, 0:40
2. Chinese Human Journey, 2:20
3. A Wandering Mind, 6:04
4. Marcel’s Specific Trigger, 13:20
5. The Rabbit Hole of Analyzing, 16:09
6. Moving Breath, 18:16
7. Why 28-Days?, 22:30
8. Being Grounded in the Unpleasant, 29:00
9. Emotional Cleanse, 35:20
My notes on Marcel’s First Step
Marcel’s triggers as a father come from being worried and concerned about his daughters. For years these emotional triggers have overtaken him to the point of physical and emotional turmoil. The goal of the 28-Day Meditation Challenge is to help ground you in those highly triggering moments in your life.
Instead of the original response as worry and concern in Marcel’s fatherhood experience, the automatic response becomes taking a mindful meditative breath, a smell of the 3 Shen Meditation oil applied in his skin, a sip of the 3 Shen Meditation tea, or even the thought of any of the aspects in the practice. With herbal medicine practice, unlike stimulants such as alcohol or caffeine, the medicine builds up in your system and less is necessary to see the benefits.
The 28-Day Meditation Challenge provides a practice in reconnecting to the earth. This reconnection stems from showing up for yourself during those triggers, or ‘dragons’. Marcel’s “dragon” is when he shows up in his life as a worried and overly concerned father, he experiences a physical unpleasant reaction and emotional turmoil when triggered. Marcel over analyzes and looks at the worst case scenario, although this pattern is normal, it is non-beneficial. Coming into the physical body and seeing how the body is reacting in this practice, Marcel will be able to release the tension and ease the trigger. This practice says no to the thoughts and says yes to the physical body. Where tension is experienced in the body, focus on moving the breath to that area can release the stress that is caused by our triggers.
When we are grounded we are able to come to a space to recognize and understand more clearly our “dragons”. We don’t want to run from or indulge with our discomforts, we simply want to identify and smooth out the areas of tension in the body. We first must feel safe within ourselves in order to feel safe in an external space.
Second Coaching Call: Finding Resilience in Emotion
“After getting angry with myself, I was easily able to diffuse it by grounding myself with the meditation.”
“It’s hard to use the mind to fix the mind. But somehow, when we slow down and come into the physical body, it calms down the emotional body.”
The second coaching call it is a milestone of the program an opportunity for the client to share his impressions, feelings, comforts and discomforts with the new routine. As a Yoga class, it is an important moment to help him to realign his practice, understanding this discomforts as a part of the new movement provoked by the tools. Each client will have a personal reaction to it, and within this call, we will be able to fine tune their experience.
Second Coaching Call
1. Knowledge of Emotions, 2:27
2. Calming the Emotional Body, 3:22
3. Peeling the Onion, 7:46
4. Restless Sleep Solution, 11:00
5. Dropping in With the Tea, 17:05
6. Next Phase, 21:15
7. Comfort in the Discomfort, 23:05
8. Breathing into the Underneath, 34:30
9. The Mantra, 36:50
My notes on Marcel’s Finding Resilience in Emotions
Marcel has had a beautiful experience with using the meditation in the 28-Day Meditation Challenge to help him drop in to his body during his triggering moments. In Marcel’s entire life he has let his emotions take over. Although with knowledge of emotions through education, he has had little practice in controlling them. With this practice, Marcel has been able to dive into his body and ease his emotions.
A common mistake we make when working with our triggers, stresses, and anxieties, is not getting to the core of them. Every trigger points towards a deeper issue, it is the underneath layer of the trigger that we want to dive into. Diving in is how we can become more resilient with our emotions. The underneath theme is typically emotionally difficult for us and is a “dragon” we don’t want to face. However, growth comes from facing that “dragon” and sitting down with it. Walking towards our deeper underneath dragon will come with hesitation at first, but our goal is to comfort it, not fight it. Inviting our “dragon” in for a cup of tea is a beautiful metaphor for learning to understand and get to know your trigger to better work with them in the future. I have invited Marcel to practice drinking the tea and talking to his “dragon” as he would a child, with ease, compassion, and understanding. The goal isn’t to fight the “dragon” feelings, it is to change it.
Finding comfort in the discomfort is a concept that shows up often in my work. For Marcel, his initial understanding of working with his “dragon’s” was to run away from them, which was his comfort zone. What this practice challenges him to do is to become grounded and learn to slowly and softly face the emotions that cause him discomfort. As humans, we have a difficult time using the mind to fix the mind, it is when we use our physical body to drop in and work through our mind triggers is when we can heal.
Third Coaching Call: Reaching a Meaningful Change
“I don’t ever see this practice as an end, I know the benefit, and I need the benefit.”
“With this practice, we look within ourselves to self regulate and make ourselves feel better instead of seeking externally. “
You will find that the third, and final call of the program, it is more than a wrap session. It helps me to understand my client’s trajectory – especially after the suggested adjustments of the second call. It also allows us to explore which goals were reached or not. From there, we have a perspective of the ownership that the client has gained over the program and its devices.
This is the true goal of the 28-Day Meditation Challenge: to provide my clients with tools and practices to, safely, and with confidence to be in charge of their emotional control.
Additionally, together with the client, I craft a new plan to address the unreached goals and keep his freeing and successful healing journey.
Third Coaching Call
1. Expectation, 0:23
2. The Beautiful Result, 0:43
3. The Saint, The Warrior, and The Alchemist, 3:40
4. Requirement of Life, 12:13
5. Catching the Dragon, 15:20
6. Tapping in With the Oil, 18:24
7. The Benefit, 26:05
8. Breath Work, 30:28
9. Continuing the Journey, 32:50
My notes on Marcel’s Reaching a Meaningful Change
With Marcel’s practice during the 28-Day Meditation Challenge, he has become less reactive when a trigger shows up, his thoughts have become more gentle, and he has become more accepting to what has been happening around him. This is exactly what this practice is dedicated to serving, it has been designed to assist you in showing up more in your present with more ease and capability.
Being present within ourselves allows up to show up in the present moment and being present is always necessary in any life journey. With this practice, we look within ourselves to self regulate and make ourselves feel better instead of seeking external reassurance. Marcel has developed knowledge and practice to assist him in showing up more presently and he is seeing and feeling the results of the 28-Day Meditation Challenge.
After having years of struggle with falling asleep when triggered, he now uses the meditation practice to help him fall asleep. Getting grounded upon your bed allows the reconnection to the earth to occur even if your feet are not planted on the ground. Marcel is able to drop in to his physical body and ease the tension his triggers create disallowing him to fall asleep.
Where to go from here?
Although titled 28-Day Challenge, Marcel shared with me that he sees no end to this practice. He now knows the benefit of the tools in this practice that says no to the thoughts and says yes to the physical body. He knows the necessity of them and will keep having teas with his now smaller “dragons”, smelling the oil on his skin and taking a mindful meditative breath as a break of a challenging triggering moment.
His heartfelt testimonial about his trajectory has encouraged many clients to take the pilot seat of their mental health carriage and re-write their fates.
Join the 28-Day Meditation Challenge
If you, like Marcel, would like to take control of your anxiety, stress, and anger, I invite you to learn more about how the 28-Day Meditation Challenge. Book a free discovery call with me to discover how the program can help you to slow down, be in the present, understand and show up for your emotions. I will be happy to be part of your healing journey: https://www.justinehrlich.com/28-day-challenge